Seeing yourself Being seen to look at the world!


Santa Fizzarotti Selvaggi, National Vice President of the Associazione Crocerossine d'Italia Onlus speaks at the Federottica conference

(by Santa Fizzarotti Selvaggi) My greeting is on behalf of the National President of the NGO Donna Mila Brachetti Peretti and of all the Members of the Bari section led by Grazia Andidero. The Associazione Crocerossine d'Italia Onlus which was founded by Mila Brachetti Peretti in 2014, at that time National Inspector of the Corps of Voluntary Nurses CRI, together with a group of women,

now on the national territory it operates in different realities. The Association is open to II.VV. not in an active state and to all those who believe in the values ​​of humanity as a bridge between generations, peoples and civilizations. The reference to the Crocerossine is inscribed exclusively in the strong motivation to remember the historical role of the same in the wider history of Italy, also respecting the changes. A development of this root has therefore been imagined capable of opening up to all those who wish to donate their time to those who are in a state of discomfort in such a complex world. In other words, to offer the possibility of a new vision of the world.

Grateful to Federottica and Dr. Sorrento for asking for my contribution

In the eyes, in the gaze it is always the reflection of the soul and the world. We are our senses that the brain, this marvelous and partially unknown organ, processes, giving rise to the mind whose product is thoughts that are not separated from emotions. Emotion is the mother of thought, writes I Matte Blanco. All the senses, such as extensions of the central organ, collaborate in making us orientate in the world. They are all equally important, but hearing and sight are those that allow us to be close to people and the other close to things. With the look you can touch things, with the eye we activate the gaze of the mind.

"Seeing", that is, the nature of things witheye and with the intellect: that is with a intelligere complex and total, which arises from perception.

The eye retains its privileged communication role. The gaze allows you to live any experience ...

For example, when parents "look" at their child they confirm their sense of self, their feeling part of the world. A look can change the perception of itself by recognizing its internal world while it feels that it is recognized by the other.

When the child sees himself reflected in the mirror, he always needs the gaze of the other to recognize himself. It is the unary trait theorized by Lacan that makes the subject not feel that he is in fragments. One feels "worthy of existing" as one is without veils or masks: it is the true Self. The gaze of the Other, and in this case of the mother, shapes the formless, that magmatic world that lives within us. The place of the prohibition (represented by the forced unconscious) becomes tolerable and through the gaze one can contain the anxieties, the uncontrollable aspects. The baby wants to be seen and recognized by the mother's gaze to feel he exists.

Merleau-Ponty recognizes the bearing factor in the eye. In one of his works, "The phenomenology of perception", he claims that the eye presides over the regulation of form. In "The visible and the invisible", he says that we must also take into account the invisible part, that is to say, that world that is perceived with a different sense.

The Eye is the instrument through which the subject continuously orders and reorders the world. Picasso made a perspective reversal: from figurative that Cubism was invented, that is, he began to look into things and human beings.

The gaze without an eye is an absolutely contemporary condition: dominated by the view we are absolutely blinded. The brain no longer sees anything and does not notice things. (P. Virilio) It is therefore urgent to re-educate our gaze to see the world from other perspectives.

"The eye can get lost, it can stop working, but the vision is another thing, it belongs to a totally different order," says Derrida.

What does it really mean to see? How much do we know about the eyes as a perceptual tool that the brain uses to receive information together with all the other senses? What does it mean not to see well?

Psychotherapy, support, taking care of visual disturbances are a real "shared emotional and emotional journey" where the person in difficulty and the operators are together to explore their soul, the anguish in a very complex game of transference and countertransference. Perceiving and seeing the world facilitates the construction of the mind by the brain. It gives meaning to reality, to that reality that the brain sees and sees in relation to emotions. The brain circuits develop differently according to the stimuli, the images, the sounds, the words. The latter with their sound body and the images they evoke can destroy how they can facilitate healing. Experiences can affect neural connections and the organization of our brain. Experience shapes the brain through neuroplasticity (connections change and this changes the brain itself) Siegel D. 2002.

We need to be aware that, in the dark, we absolutely miss the Other, the other who can lighten the nights.

For a child the most atrocious experience that determines the irrepressible feeling of anguish is that of not being held by the mother's hands, of not being looked after, contained and supported, of not being seen. Note is the anguish of the eighth month when the child notices a foreign face that is not that of the mother (R. Spitz)

"Do not see love", "not be seen" means to experience the sense of loneliness, a desperate condition in the heart of one's night.

Being in a dark room when we were children scared us, we had not disappeared, but it scared us: we needed the hand of the mother, her lullaby. We saw nothing, we felt ourselves and our being helpless before the world, dismayed. The light of the mother's love lit up the darkness and it is from this love that the non-profit association Crocerossine d'Italia nourishes itself, an “agapic love” that gives to others.

We are aware of the need to reach the heart, the soul of people in a state of fragility, seeing the world from another perspective, with a different gaze, a gaze that caresses the wounds of each human being to facilitate, if possible, their acceptance and sometimes healing. The child is lost and finds himself in the gaze of the mother who recognizes it assumes a mirror function: the function of the ego is structured. It is a metaphor to say that we try to recognize the difficulties so that they can be addressed to help look at the internal reality in relation to the external reality and with the light found in itself to make the world bright.

Seeing yourself Being seen to look at the world!